All The Facts Please

Wow! This is great already. This is officially my very first blog. I am not completely sure how to get started, but I am going to give it a try.

I wanted to start this particular blog because I run into so many situations in life that make me wonder what is really going on with people. When you think about it, we say and do some really crazy things some times. There are so many perspectives and viewpoints in the world. It has always been an interest of mine to study people and the situations they find themselves in. I wonder if I would do the same thing. Why or why not? I also wonder if they ever consider other options than the one they chose. Funny thing is I find a lot people don't think deeply about much of what they do.

It must be nice. Me myself have always thought so much. I analyze and analyze until there is nothing left. Talk about beating a dead horse. Sometimes I wish I could be the type of person that does stuff on the fly throwing caution to the wind, flying by the seat of my pants. So far it seems an impossible feat. I am doomed to consider life and all of the details therein. Don't get me wrong, as much as it would be nice to think I am certainly not saying I am perfect and I don't ever make mistakes. That would certainly be an understatement. I do try very hard not to. I am a very honest person. I am not big on lying. I believe dealing with the truth frees you to function completely in life.

Anyway, back to the perspectives part. With so many thought process out there. I am amazed at some of the things that people believe. Of course we all think our way of thinking is correct. We don't allow much room for others to express their opinion. I am very firm in my believes but I by no means think I am always right. Most of the time, but not all of the time.

This is something that happened to me today and it was one of those things I look at people and wonder what are you doing. A lady (we are friendly not good friends) asked me to take her to her surgery this week. She knew I worked but said she had asked others and no one could take her. Trying to be a good person and feeling sorry for her I got more information and considered getting off of work to take her. She is single and claimed there was no one else in her family that could take her. I wanted to help, but I also realize I have two young kids and a husband. I really need my vacation and sick time to accommodate my family. I figured I would ask a friend of mine what she thought. She didn't think I should miss work. She mention another lady we knew that didn't work that wouldn't mind taking her. I asked the lady and she agreed. No problem. This obviously took the weight off of me. I hated to say no. I was thankful for a solution.

I go to tell the lady in need about the new plan. She is happy and appreciative. As she rambles on she mentioned how she didn't want several other people (in her family) to take her due to various reasons. I couldn't believe it. This is definitely not what she told me earlier. I certainly understand wanting to have the best case scenario for yourself, but having me take time off of work should not have been acceptable to her. She had other reasonable options, but was willing to let me lose time at work for her reasons. Mind you her family options where not bad. She simply didn't want them. I fully understand that but I believe you have to consider everyone involved. I try to be a kind person but I don't want people to take advantage of that. I also feel like she deliberately withheld this information when I asked her the first time.

Anyway, I wasn't sure if I should tell the other party all of the details or just leave it where it was. I know the the lady wasn't working so it may not be interrupting her life too much. I was just a little annoyed at the way it was handled. It felt a bit manipulative. In the end, I left things as they were setup.

This wasn't a huge deal. It is just one of the things I find interesting when people do it. If I left the options out when I made the request, I would have left them out in the final conversation. It leaves less room for misinterpreting a person. I am glad we found a nice woman that is able to take care of her during this time. It worked out for all involved. We know she will get there and home safely which is what really counts.

Thanks for stopping by. Hopefully I will get better at this as time goes on. Please continue to visit.