Patience Is A Virtue

Have you ever noticed how rude we are as people? I was just thinking about this while I was stopped in my tracks going from one side of the building to the other at work one day. We have a huge facility that allows you to drive inside the building. We use little golf carts. People will stop and talk without pulling over. Much like on the real roads of a neighborhood. This guy actually looked me in the face and continued talking. I tried to give a fair couple of minutes before I insisted he let me pass. Then they moved without incident. I was outdone.

The flip side to this is maybe I am just too impatient. Life doesn’t have to go by in a rush. I know some people like the south because they say people move a bit slower down there. They take time to be friendlier. Maybe there is something to that. I tend to always be in a rush. I guess a little patience wouldn’t hurt. I don’t know. It is something to think about.

What A Week

It has been days since I have written. Have you ever had your week snatched away from you? I had a plan on Monday and I have no idea what happened to that thought process. The week was suddenly filled with meetings counseling sessions, illnesses, last minute drama and your general unplanned activities. I am trying to get the hang of this blogging. I haven’t been able to pin down a consistent time to write. I hope anyone reading understands.

This weekend I may be a little scarce. We have a family weekend planned so we are going out of town to meet up with the rest. Family is coming in from all over the states. This could be a mini reunion. I am exhausted but I really want to go. I haven’t been able to travel as much since I had my kids so I don’t see my family as often as I use to. I really want them to see the girls. That will be nice.

I love my family, but they are so much drama. I will definitely tell some of those stories as we go along. This weekend we are having a mini concert for an aunt who sings and a banquet. The next day we are having a wedding, a reception, a family concert and a fish fry. Then all day church on Sunday. This is destined to be an action packed weekend. I don’t know how I am going to keep up. I might not. That is a lot of running around and I am already extremely sleepy. I am sure I will have great blog stories from this weekend. Oh well, until then…

Dental Horror

Today has been a day. I had the most outrageous experience today. I had dental work done yesterday. I had to get a crown. I am not a big fan of going to the dentist, but I try to be a trooper. I had the first part of the crown done, and then they put the temporary on until two weeks when the permanent crown arrives. This has normally been fine, but for some reason the aluminum temporary they used was giving me some kind of metal shock every time I smiled or hit it when I talked. I am not sure if you have heard of it, but some people are affected by chalkboards and forks on teeth. Thinks like that. I happen to be one of them. I fork sliding across someone’s teeth makes me want to crawl inside myself. I simply can’t handle it.

So this is the feeling I had been dealing with since last night. By 8:00 am this morning I was at my wits end. My nerves were on high alert. I called the lady I knew at the office and asked her to get me in which she did. I get there looking for some kind of sympathy and definitely some relief and the dentist treats me like I am a nut job. I couldn’t believe it. Here I am in this chair looking for help and he is insisting what I am telling him could not be the case. He basically refused to do anything to help me and told me I would have to live with this for the next two weeks.

If you know anything about what I am saying, the thought of this sent me into a tizzy. I was so frustrated I was driven to tears. You feel very helpless when you are dealing with things that you can’t fix. I told him to just get me out of the chair and I would find someone else who could help me. He finally agreed to take it out of my mouth. Of course this was after letting me know how much worse off I would be. He didn’t offer any other solutions. It was a bit traumatic. I got out of his chair without a word. I let my friend know I would be back if I had to for the crown, but after that I am finished with this guy.

Funny thing is, even without the temporary on top of it and without him desensitizing it (which I found out later he could have done to help me), I feel much better. I can’t even tell the tooth is missing over there until I touch it. I have to watch hot or cold, but this little bit of pain is way more bearable than what was going on before. I guess it wasn’t in my head.

After my friend dealt with him, of course he is apologetic and wants me to come in so he can fix it up a bit. I told her as long as it doesn’t hurt worse than it does now, I will make it the two weeks. One of the nurses is trying to get it completed earlier for me. I really appreciate her assistance. As far as the dentist is concerned, I am just not pleased with him at all. I don’t think there is anything he can do to convince me to come back at this point. My entire day has been hindered by this process. My head has been hurting since I left. I can understand a bad day, but the level that he took this was unbelievable for a professional of any kind. Oh well, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.

Let It Go Already!

I know this lady who was cheated on and left by her husband of 30 years. He really has been horrible to her most of the marriage. He had a baby on her within their first 5 years of marriage and it seemed he had multiple affairs over the years. It really is sad. She doesn't deserve this type of treatment. The divorce happened 6 years ago. She has since remarried. So has he.

We talk from time to time and it seems she still knows quit a bit about this mans life. I mean serious details. She know where he goes, with who, how he got there and how everything went while he was there. This is on a daily basis almost. It is quite troubling. I had a chance to explain to her that the way she is keeping up with him is not healthy. I told her it might be time to cut off the information flow. To stop letting people contact her with every detail of his life. She of course didn't agree. She feels she is over him and has moved on. I wonder if that could be true if you, after six years make a point to stay so well informed. Even if it is to know if and when he is going to get his for the way he treated you. Sometimes you just have to move on. You can't wait for revenge either. It isn't worth your new life and all of the possibilities to hang on to this poisonous situation. I encouraged her to really think about what she is doing. It isn't fair to her new husband that she puts this much time into her ex.

I fully understand I have no idea of what it is like to lose a marriage after all of this time, but I am a firm believer in not letting anything in life stop me from moving forward positively. I have had other tragic things happen to me in my life, but thankfully I was able to put them behind me.Nothing good can come from living in the past. There is a time and season for everything in life. We have to know when that time is up and to move on. You do more damage by trying to hold on to something who's time has past.

See Your Family

Today was a really great day. I spent the afternoon with my family. My husband and I went out to eat. We took the girls to the store. It was crazy of course. The little one had a melt down, but we were all together. My three year old wanted some bubbles so we picked them up and my husband played with them outside. I came out to sit on the porch and watch them. I took some really great pictures. As I sat there, I saw them. I don't know if you ever think about it, but a lot of times we are just moving through life. We don't always stop to experience and acknowledge what is going on in our lives. Today I really saw my family. It was the best feeling ever. I have such a great husband. He really loves and takes care of the girls. They can't get enough of him. I still can't believe they are all mine. They are playing and jumping and running. My one year old is finally getting to really enjoy being outside. It was wonderful to see her running around. She has a very funny little run and she smiles so big while she is doing it. My older daughter is a delight as well. She has grown so much to be only three. I can't believe she knows so much. I was so thankful to have such a great family. I plan to see them more often. To really stop and smell the roses with them.

I waited so late tonight to write. I thought I didn't have too much to say. When I think about it now I realize that I already said a mouthful.

Personal Information Without Verification

Have you ever received a call from a friend you haven’t spoken to in 10 years? You wonder under what circumstances they acquired your information. I am the type of person who will not give out other people’s information easily. Especially if I don’t know the status of the relationship or if there has been a marriage or other major changes in a person’s life. I always try to verify it is ok to share or I take the requestors information and give it to the targeted person.

This situation can be risky business if done without consideration for the targeted party. Sometimes there is disrespect or disregard in the situation. Take for instance my husband’s mother. She gave out his work phone number to some old friends of his. There are several things I find wrong with this picture.

First, there is absolutely no reason to give out work information as the primary way to contact someone. No one had died these people were not in urgent situations. Work is not for general conversation with miscellaneous people. You can give it out to whom you would like to yourself, but definitely not someone else.

Second, one of the people she gave my husband’s number to was a woman. I definitely don’t agree with that. You need to know she is ok to contact him. You need to know her status within our marriage. Certain friends are not a part of our lives at this point. On both sides. The proper thing to do would have been to get her information and pass it on to him if he wanted it.

I don’t understand this behavior. She has done this before. Usually every couple of years something like this pops up. I thank God my husband and I are mature in our relationship at this point, but there still are situations we would rather not be included. His mother does not know how this woman has behaved since we’ve been married. She calls and leaves messages cursing like a sailor on our voicemail. My husband is grown now with a wife and kids. He is also a minister. Cleary this woman does not know how to deal with him at this point. He has changed. She knows he is married and I don't really know her. Personally, I would tone it down a bit until I got to know everyone or something. One time she wouldn't identify herself on the phone. I had to threaten to hang up on her. Maybe she doesn't understand how this is viewed. This does not make me happy that she has started to come back around. I try never to tell my husband who he can or can't have as friends, but this girl definately makes it hard.

Sometimes I think there is a lack of respect on the Mom’s part. She tends to do weird things concerning her son. I don’t think she understand we are on the same page with this type of issue. My husband and I talk and come to agreements with how we are going to handle our lives and who we will include. I feel she does this to circumvent me. I don’t think she believes that her son has willingly made certain changes in his life. I usually get the blame for anything he does different. I could be wrong, but we have some issues between us. I will save that discussion for another day.

I am just curious to know what others think on this subject. I know I can be a bit uptight, but some people are too loose and it causes major trouble in their lives. We all should be considerate and thoughtful of people we love and their situations. It doesn’t matter if you agree with how they handle things. You still have to respect their decisions. This type of issue is not a morally right or wrong situation. It is a preference of choosing how you will run your life. Protection of what you will let enter your world.

Kids and Cell Phones

I was discussing cell phones with a friend of mine today. We talked about whether or not you should give young children cell phones. Personally I think cell phones are one of the best things in communications especially to keep up with your children. Since my children are only 1 and 3 I am really glad this type of technology will be available as they grow. I believe it will be comforting to be in contact with them when necessary.

This is what I don’t understand about the cell phones for children. I don’t understand buying more minutes or a larger data plan for obscene amount of calling and texting. Initially, I will give my children a phone to stay in contact with Dad, myself and a few designated people. There will be no calling of the friends and running up a bill or using all of your minutes because you have them. Controlled usage to me is a must. At certain age you may be able to have some access, but limitations are going to be key.

I wonder where we are going with all of this free access, unlimited usage and unmonitored behavior. I have heard some disturbing things on the news. I hope parents are becoming more aware. There has to be continuing adaptation to the technologies in the world as they change. We have to learn and be vigilant with our children. We have to protect their values and their innocence.