Let It Go Already!

I know this lady who was cheated on and left by her husband of 30 years. He really has been horrible to her most of the marriage. He had a baby on her within their first 5 years of marriage and it seemed he had multiple affairs over the years. It really is sad. She doesn't deserve this type of treatment. The divorce happened 6 years ago. She has since remarried. So has he.

We talk from time to time and it seems she still knows quit a bit about this mans life. I mean serious details. She know where he goes, with who, how he got there and how everything went while he was there. This is on a daily basis almost. It is quite troubling. I had a chance to explain to her that the way she is keeping up with him is not healthy. I told her it might be time to cut off the information flow. To stop letting people contact her with every detail of his life. She of course didn't agree. She feels she is over him and has moved on. I wonder if that could be true if you, after six years make a point to stay so well informed. Even if it is to know if and when he is going to get his for the way he treated you. Sometimes you just have to move on. You can't wait for revenge either. It isn't worth your new life and all of the possibilities to hang on to this poisonous situation. I encouraged her to really think about what she is doing. It isn't fair to her new husband that she puts this much time into her ex.

I fully understand I have no idea of what it is like to lose a marriage after all of this time, but I am a firm believer in not letting anything in life stop me from moving forward positively. I have had other tragic things happen to me in my life, but thankfully I was able to put them behind me.Nothing good can come from living in the past. There is a time and season for everything in life. We have to know when that time is up and to move on. You do more damage by trying to hold on to something who's time has past.